Take the temperature of your relationship!

You’ll get your result in two minutes

Below are seven statements and questions related to your relationship. It might feel scary to receive a score on your current relationship, but try to view the score as a pointer, not an objective truth.

Select the answer choice that best fits.

1. I can collaborate well and solve practical problems with my partner.

Always

Often

Seldom

Never

2. I feel that I can confide in my partner.

Always

Often

Seldom

Never

3. When my partner and I disagree or have a conflict, I quickly get over it.

Always

Often

Seldom

Never

4. How often in the recent past have you thought that your relationship is not good?

Always

Often

Seldom

Never

5. How often have you recently considered separating from your partner?

Always

Often

Seldom

Never

6. How emotionally close do you feel to your partner?

Very close

Somewhat close

Just a little close

Not close

7. Overall, how satisfied are you with your relationship?

Very satisfied

Somewhat satisfied

Somewhat unsatisfied

Very unsatisfied

Note! Every relationship is unique and dynamic. The exercises suggested on the next page are merely ideas to explore, strengthen, and develop what exists between you. If you notice you need more support than these exercises can provide, consider seeking professional help. Even small steps toward increased understanding and appreciation can make a big difference over time.

The Valentine Scale is free to use, publicly accessible, and has been psychometrically tested. The results have been published here. For questions, contact Per Carlbring, Professor at the Department of Psychology, Stockholm University: per.carlbring@psychology.su.se, phone: 070-666 7 666. You can download The Valentine Scale as a PDF in Swedish, English, and Icelandic.